Jaidev Gupta Managing a reputed educational institution Is a trustee. A few years ago the reputation of his organization started declining. The reason was the deteriorating standard of education in his school. The main complaint of the parents and management was against the teachers. The complaint was that teachers do not come to school on time, the staff sit in the room and gossip, He often gets angry and gives severe punishments to the students, gives extended holidays, etc. Behaves inappropriately and does not cooperate with Acharya.
The experienced trustee board understood the seriousness of the matter. He concluded that the school principal failed to take work from other teachers and maintain discipline. Have gone. Therefore, he immediately transferred the teacher to another institution and appointed a new teacher in this school. None of the teachers knew the new Acharya Shri Patel Saheb. This school and its environment were new for Patel Saheb also. He had understood the entire situation even before entering school.
On the other hand, Patel Saheb was criticized for his strict stance. Wherever he went, everything would be arranged. What will happen here in this school?
Patel Saheb called a meeting of all the teachers on the very first day and did an amazing job in that meeting. no. What problems do teacher friends face and what can be done to solve these problems? A committee of eleven teachers was formed to conduct the study. Just this one step and the job is done.
The teachers thought that this was the only person who came up with their idea. What did Patel Saheb do? Started with friendship. After this he took the teacher one by one. He maintained his friendship and took the work with a firm hand. Within a short time the standard of education in the school became very high. Complaints were replaced by praise and the lost reputation of the school was not only recovered but also doubled. It’s done.
Did this happen peacefully? Because the new Acharya started with friendship. And that friendship was not superficial, mere appearance was not enough. There was depth in it. Patel Saheb has retired today, but the teachers trained under him have carried on his tradition even today. Also maintained. – The tradition of starting with friendship…
If this Acharya wishes for the desired with ferocity or with a spirit of protest, What if you had started? On the contrary, teachers’ opposition and non-cooperation would increase. And then the work of Acharya became like grinding gram. Acharya first learned about the opposition from the teachers, used his strategy to overcome the opposition, with friendship Started.
Can’t we do this?
Is coming. I have learned to work this way and it is a lot of fun.
This principle works everywhere.
Since I have to constantly travel around the country and abroad to give seminars and training programs, I There are constantly opportunities to work with new people. It is not the case that the person in front suits me everywhere. But I start with friendly behavior, be it airport, railway station, hotel, etc. Be it new organizers of my programs or government officials, every time I have felt that my The work gets done easily.
Sometimes it is the time of arrival at the airport due to check-in time, sometimes it is the date of the event. There may be opposition from the organizer regarding the change, sometimes there should be a complaint regarding the service in the hotel, all these Instead, I have always taken the situation in my favor by starting with friendship.
So always keep doing one thing. Keep making the person from whom you want to work feel that you are his friend. are.
Even in family problems, the attitude of friendship gives better results than “Hodda” of relatives. Do you know how vast is the scope of your rights as a friend?
Friend can give advice.
Friends can get support.
Friend can slap.
A friend can speak the truth in a rude manner. (What relatives and friends can never say)
A friend can also slap you.
For this, become a friend (not to fight, but to get cooperation.)
Why does this make a difference? Because when you start with friendship, the other person feels more secure. He feels a kind of belonging. So he can talk to me openly. He can tell me what is bothering him or what is the problem. And when the problem or objection is mentioned, he automatically becomes ready to cooperate because he feels that you are his friend, well-wisher, not his enemy.
Terrorism in our country remained rampant in Punjab and Kashmir for years. Different governments took steps in their own ways to suppress terrorism, when combing operations were carried out to find hidden terrorists in the city, there was huge opposition among the local residents and there was an increase in bloodshed, but when the authorities treated the local residents with friendliness and started with friendship before the combing operation was carried out, the same people responded tremendously and a large number of terrorists were caught. When you start with friendship, the other person feels a kind of security.
This rule has been beautifully depicted in the movie ‘Lage Raho Munnabhai‘. Not on one occasion but on many occasions, the main character ‘Munnabhai’ has used this principle. Wherever there is a need to register a protest, he has used this same weapon and how beautifully he has given it a name? – “Gandhigiri”. After the release of that movie, if someone behaves in a friendly manner even in non-cooperation or protest, then he started being given the name ‘Gandhigiri‘. If you have not seen that movie, then watch it especially.
Many parents come to me with such complaints that the morals of their young sons and daughters are deteriorating, they do not know what to do in the future, they do not talk to anyone in the family, they just keep creating on Facebook. They go around with friends all day and when they are at home, they have long conversations with friends on their mobile phones. No matter how much I tell them, they are not affected. Should we bring them to you for counseling??
Then I am saying that the need for counseling is not your child but you, they are not ready to listen to you because you do not start with friendship. Those college friends are formed because you could not become their friends. And maybe if you have become friends, you have become friends only enough to get work done or give advice. There is no depth in that friendship. If you really become friends with your children, then cooperation will come from them. There is no need to ask for cooperation.
Getting angry at your children for their inappropriate habits or keeping the atmosphere of the house tense all day does not make any difference. Shefali understood this well. She was very tired of her son’s habit of watching TV continuously. She had repeatedly asked her son Dhruv to give up this habit, threatened him, made him angry. But the result was zero. Now she started differently. Started with friendship.
She started talking to Dhruv like a friend would. She changed the subject of the conversation. She let go of the motherly nature in her behavior. She stopped giving advice. Instead of getting angry, she started joking around. She checked what things Dhruv was having trouble with and started helping him in a friendly manner, ignoring the age difference. After behaving like this for four or five months, one day when Dhruv complained, “Mom, lately there is so much homework that it is not getting done.” Then Shefali immediately said, “Homework is going to increase, son, but if you do a little time management, your homework will also be done and still the time will increase. Think about what is consuming your time the most?” It was then that Dhruv really understood that there was no point in watching TV. And then watching TV became very less. But if mom had not become a friend, would this have been possible?
If mom had continued to be angry, Dhruv would have stopped watching TV! Maybe even if he had, what would have been his attitude towards mom?
We have a saying, which is worth remembering. “A pinch of jaggery attracts more flies than a whole heap of anthills.” – Therefore, if we have sweetness within us, we can also make many people ours. We can get their cooperation. People are ready to cooperate, our sweetness is less.
Suppose you want to do some work but you are not getting permission from your elders and permission is necessary, – then first start friendly dealings with them. The chances of getting permission will increase manifold. This rule is equally useful for increasing sales.
Sometimes, salesmen try too hard to convince the customer of their product by talking too much. Finally, they get tired of not selling the goods. Then they complain that there is a recession in the market. If you want to increase the sales of your product or service, then adopt this method from today. Always start friendly with your potential customer. And really be friendly. Maintain friendship with him. As a by-product of this friendship, business will definitely increase. I know many insurance agents who never talk about selling their insurance but always behave in a friendly manner with whoever they meet. So that their business runs in full swing.
Friends, in normal circumstances this principle works but when people’s opposition to us has crossed the limit, it also works beautifully. All weapons fall down against the Brahmastra of friendship. – Just remember that friendship is not to be faked, it is to be a real friend.
That is why I am reminding you to start your work with friendship.
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