Those who do not do this have more enemies

In September, 2025, during one of my seminars at the Town Hall of Nadiad, I was talking about the immense powers of the human mind. The talk was about how some tasks that seem impossible to us become possible with the power of the subconscious mind. I was explaining this to the audience with some examples.

At that time, a brother from the audience stood up and started opposing my talk. I tried to calm him down. But his opposition started getting fierce. He started saying, “There is nothing like what you are saying… You are misleading people… You are spreading superstition among people…”

Then I told him, – “Look brother, what you are saying that I am spreading superstition, – you may be right in your own way. But right now, there are 500 other listeners sitting in this auditorium besides you. They may not believe that. Let us ask them.” Having said that, I asked the audience, who among you thinks that I am spreading superstition?

In response, not a single person raised his hand. That brother also started looking around. He saw that no one agreed with him.

Then I said to him, “You are currently wasting the time of 500 people who agree with me on something that no one agrees with you. I don’t mind, but if you waste more of their time, those people will force you to go out – that is why you are sitting.”

And that brother sat down. He remained silent until the end.

What really happened?

That brother opposed my point, opposed it in the wrong way. If I had expected it, I could have also opposed it strongly. I could have acted angrier than his anger. But I needed his cooperation. That is why I acted in this way.

Now suppose I had proved him wrong? His way of speaking was completely wrong and unacceptable, but if I had called him wrong? Then his opposition would have increased and he would have started trying to prove himself right more aggressively. And because of that, the other listeners would have been disturbed for a long time. Even though he was wrong, I stopped his opposition without calling him ‘wrong’. He became calm and sat down.

Wisdom lies in never calling anyone ‘wrong’ or ‘wrong’. Not only is the right not called wrong, but the wrong is not called ‘wrong’ either. Calling the wrong wrong has never solved any problems. On the contrary, it only increases them.

When we call someone wrong, their self-esteem is hurt and they are ready to resist us more and more. This must have happened to you too sometimes in your dealings. Remember what happens when you call someone wrong for their unreasonable behavior or for something they say?

Socrates, who is considered a storehouse of knowledge, also told his disciples that “I only know that I know nothing.” Are we wiser than Socrates? No, then we should stop telling others lies.

You must have seen the movie ‘Jab We Met’ that was released some time ago. In it, when Shahid Kapoor returns and takes charge of his company, he gives a very effective speech in front of everyone. Even though the people who sank his company are present at that time, he does not even try to prove a single person ‘wrong’. Then, to understand the effect of that, you have to watch that movie.

Another thing is that if the wrongdoer feels that he is wrong by looking at him in a certain way, or through your body language (i.e. gestures and body posture), then what is the need to inform him through words and get angry with him? The main point here is that the other person should not feel at all that ‘you’ are telling him wrong. Wisdom lies in developing more wisdom in us than others but not letting people realize that you are ‘wiser’ than them.

A psychologist named Carl Rogers says that most people, when someone presents some thing, idea, concept or belief to them, immediately start deciding whether that person is right or wrong. Rarely does a person try to understand the other person or what they are saying. People do not even think about what the other person means?

It is easy to determine the truth or falsehood of a person or his words, but it is a rare task to understand his words or behavior without prejudice.

Until death, God does not tell us whether we are right or wrong?! Are we wiser than God that we go around calling people wrong?

When you call a person’s words or his belief wrong, he feels that you are calling him wrong. He takes the matter personally, and no one in the world considers ‘himself’ wrong. So he argues, becomes angry and lies more to prove himself right. Congratulations to him for his belief, but do not call him wrong.

Look at the people around you, from the high-class people to Mahatma Gandhi. Everyone has implemented this principle. Even though Gandhiji was surrounded by people who believed completely opposite to what he believed, he never called anyone wrong. On the contrary, he openly admitted that over time, my beliefs keep changing, so I believe only what I said last is true and right, as our understanding changes, our ‘opinions’ keep changing. The same is true of others, so why call them wrong?

Our beliefs change on their own, but how much do we feel if someone else tries to change our beliefs, calls us wrong? So doesn’t this happen to everyone? Understand one truth from today itself – “A person believes only what he believes to be right.”

Have you ever noticed that no matter how successful we are, we make more than 50% of our decisions in life? Right now, if you sit down to remember which decisions I made wrong, you will be surprised by the number of them. If not all our decisions are right, then what is the point of calling others wrong?

Yes, if you do not want the cooperation of the other person, it is a different matter.

We also urge those who come to become trainers in our trainer training program to remember that not everyone needs to agree with the science of the ‘mind’ that we teach, our job is to stick to our principles, – not to prove the other person wrong.

A person has the absolute right to believe what he believes, so do not tell him wrong. Be it a family member, a friend or a customer

If you decide not to tell someone wrong, you will start to realize how you can get cooperation from him without telling him wrong.

Not telling someone wrong does not mean that even if the other person says something wrong, you should tell them the truth. – But then a natural question arises that what should we do if the other person’s speech, behavior or conduct is wrong?

The answer to this question that arises in the mind may be different in every situation. Different steps have to be taken according to that situation.

The heart of the rule of ‘not telling anyone wrong’ is that due to this habit, the ‘instinct’ of telling someone wrong stops. As long as this instinct is in the mind, all our energy is used to tell that person wrong. But as soon as this instinct stops, our intellect immediately starts trying to find a way out of that situation. And that intellect is what helps us at that time It suggests that now do this or do that. Because the intellect is now free from the tendency to prove someone wrong. Now the path it will show will be more creative, more effective. There will be no conflict, no struggle.

But actually, only when you use this principle in practice, you will really realize how effective and influential it is!

I have used this principle many times in my life. And because of it, I have got unexpected results at the same time.

In the desire to prove our point, we often call the other person wrong and lose the cooperation of that person. Proving something is not a very important task, just finding out the truth – this is what scientists do.

Till thirty years ago, I had a tremendously aggressive attitude against injustice, big or small. I would immediately be ready to go to war. If someone said the slightest wrong, I would prove him wrong. In this way, I tried to prove myself right for years but could never get their cooperation.

By not calling a lie a lie, the door to a change in understanding remains open in the future. And if we call it a lie, we close that door ourselves.

So don’t try to prove anyone wrong.